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In The Nouveau Butch on February 13, 2009 at 11:09 pm

commercial-valentine

Ah the commercial Valentine.  

While the rest of America crowds the aisles of the greeting card stores this weekend, we would like to pose an alternative approach for the NB. 

First, our suggestion would be to use personalized stationary, a blank card, or even a meaningful image (post-card, photograph, CD-cover,  whathaveyou).  Every decision you make should reflect your emotion/relationship/personal connection with this person–the more specific, the more personal, the better. 

Next, use a nice pen. A felt-tip or an ink-roller will do–just stay away from your gnarly, half-chewed Bic in your kitchen junk-drawer (there’s nothing sexy about that).

And finally, speak from the heart.  If you’re a women of few words, that’s fine; but write them with care.  Infuse the message with all of your emotion. Trust us, it will show. 

And if you’re at a complete loss for words, look to the greats–try Shakespeare Oscar WildeAristotle, or perhaps…your favorite lesbian blog?  The following are just a few we came up with (we tried to offer some guidance in the parenthesis).  Best of luck!

  1. Every moment with you is time well-spent.  (Can be used on a friend, early on in a relationship, or even with someone with whom you have spent years.)
  2. Let’s take over the world. (For the ambitious NB and her well matched counterpart, this can be the sexiest, most romantic combination of words.  Being inspired/inspiring your lover is powerful–and really sweet.)
  3.  I see you.  I hear you.  I get you.  (Validation can be so romantic.  *Note: please ensure you do, in fact, see/hear/get this woman.  Sincerity is key–always.  **Second note: This will resolve almost any lovers’ quarrel.  Empathy and compassion will always short-circuit a fit of rage.)
  4. I can’t wait for tomorrow–because this gets better every, single, day.  (Hopefully, this one does double duty: making this day great and setting up a sweet self-fulfilling prophesy for tomorrow, and the next day, and the next….)
  5. I wish my heart was bigger, so I could feel you more.  (This one is a doozey–use carefully.  She’ll either run screaming from the room, or dissolve in your hands.  This must only be said when it is truly felt, otherwise it seems SUPER creepy/old school intense Lezzie–anti-NB.)

**Avoid self-deprecation at all costs.  Putting oneself down is NEVER sexy and completely insults the person you’re with.  (Think of it this way: If you’re such a turd, then she must be a loser for loving you–this is always the subconscious message that gets sent.)  The NB is confident enough to identify and declare her own emotions.  She’s also smart enough to know who to share them with.  Love is a battlefield, butches.  Choose your words carefully–we all know the pen is mightier than the sword…and as a lesbian, I’ll argue that the tongue is mightier still.

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  1. greeting cards from the hear would always be the best thing to give someone special.**

  2. there are many greeting card options that you can see in online stores but i love those that generate cute sounds ,-~

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