Editor In Butch

Don’t Look Back In Anger

In The Nouveau Butch on February 19, 2009 at 3:16 am


We just realized how much these boys look like lesbians...

We just realized how much these boys look like lesbians...



Ah February!  Sorry for the hold-up folks!  The butches have been busy, breaking up, making up, and falling in love–in short, not writing.  But not to worry, we’re back!

In this season of paper hearts, hoping ones, making starts, and broken ones, I’d like to take this moment to reflect on lovers past.

The NB, it should be noted, is a lady of class.  Meaning: she don’t talk shit about her exes.  They say that people come into our lives for a reason, a season or a lifetime; and this is neither good nor bad.  There are no mistakes, merely lessons learned.  And, to this end, we see the value in all relationships, failed, destroyed, lost or otherwise.  We speak fondly of our ex-lovers because they provided us with something.  Perhaps we have not yet learned what that might be, but we should be grateful for the experience no less.  

As an added benefit, one who speaks fondly of an old girlfriend is often appealing to a new one.  In a time where the average person spends about three years at any given job, it seems reasonable to assume that most love affairs will not last forever.  Please don’t mistake this for an anti-romantic sentiment.  The NB is quite romantic.  But the point is, there are likely to be a few false starts before we meet the woman for all time.  And that’s a good thing.  The point is to accept this fact, let go of the expired circumstance, and appreciate it for what gifts it did bring. Did you’re ex open your eyes to the beauty of impressionist paintings?  Show you how to make killer home-fries?  Or was she the best sex ever?  Any way, you hopefully learned something and are better for having been with her.  

Of course there are the unfortunate entanglements that leave us bruised and bewildered, but at the very least, these women taught us what we don’t want, what we wont stand for–and even a negative lesson is a valuable one.

So in this season of cosmic changes, of intense romance and devastating loss, in this winter month of discontent, we challenge you to appreciate even the lost loves.  Keep your chins up and wish them well, trust us, it’s much more attractive.  And with your head held high, you’re much more likely to see what’s next.  So don’t look back in anger.  Don’t look back at all.


B. Cassidy

  1. WONDERFUL sentiments, but, I just gotta have the rare sneaky peek back! How else do I know things are so much better now. 🙂

  2. I have to say, I don’t want a woman who speaks either ill or fondly about her ex…I’d like us both to pretend that they don’t exist. I don’t care what they liked, what kind of person they were, etc…it’s kind of annoying.

    That’s why, on my site, you’ll see references to the chick I’m with…but rarely any others…

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