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In The Nouveau Butch, Tools of the Trade on May 28, 2009 at 12:28 am

When was the last time this word brought dazzling images of swanky silver to mind?  We could mean chain-links, watch-links, or clinks of glass toasting your class, but in this particular piece we’re referring to the clasps which hold your kissing cuffs together–Ah yes, cufflinks.

Cufflinks are always classy–the mere presence of French cuffs encircling one’s wrist brings with it a bundle of elegance, like a beautiful bow tied around the bundle of flowers of fingers (ahem, lesbians).  But how to do it?  Can’t go wrong with a classic, Tiffany & Co Almond pair: simple, understated, timeless, these say “fabulous” without a lot of flash.  We here at the NB can get behind that all day long.


If you’re in the music business, or you actually play guitar, we highly recommend these Fender cuff benders.  Unless you’re a die-hard music fan with instruments and autographs strewn about your home–shy away from something so specific.  Using a guitar pick to tell the world how cool you are is completely counter-productive unless you’ve got the skills and devotion to back it up.  If it’s a conversation piece, make sure you’re end of the conversation consists of more than “I just liked them.”


To play tres preppy, one can always go with a label–Bvlgari makes a snappy pair, Kenneth Cole has a few branded with his logo, and wearing one’s own initials is always appropriate.  There’s nothing like wearing your own brand to state your value without saying a word.  However, nothing screams prep-monster like a pair of horsies galloping toward your knuckles, mallets in hand, ready to play Polo.  As if French Cuffs didn’t scream PREP loud enough–throw these bad-boys on and shout it from the roof-tops.


When adopting a simple, classic style (collared shirt, nice slacks, clean lines, minimal color/cut creativity) one expresses a lot with the details to adorn the outfit.  The smallest opportunity to showcase one’s personality will be perceived that much more clearly by those who take notice–so choose these tiny details carefully!  Find a pair you love, find a pair that make you happy.

images-4Have a nice day,



Best. Neighbor. Ever.

In Hot Girls, Queer-oes in a Nut-shell!, Tools of the Trade on May 21, 2009 at 1:41 pm
We here at the NB would like to introduce our favorite new neighbor–she’s not new to the gay scene, nor to the blog scene, but she’s hot, she’s femme, and she’s right next door.


If ever there were a perfect counter-part for the Nouveau Butch, it would be The Femme Next Door

“As a lesbian lingerie designer, I know a thing or two about what women want… After continuously advising friends on how to impress their girlfriends with the perfect first date restaraunt, right wine and best birthday gifts I decided to share the wealth…”
Did we mention how hot she is?

Did we mention how hot she is?


Her romantic date tips, great gift ideas, and hot lingerie pics are totally worth a view–and now span from NY to Chicago.  This is, indeed,  a tail of two cities.  So check her out–er…check her sight out…word on the street is she’s got a lady.  Sorry Butches.

Love in the time of Poverty

In Edugaytion, Relationships, The Nouveau Butch on May 21, 2009 at 2:06 am


Ok, so we’re all a little recession-struck at present.

Here are a few hot tips on how to keep your lover’s spirits up and share the love without dipping too deep into your pockets…and maybe, if you’re lucky, she’ll dip in just past your pockets later.





Send your lover a note in the mail—better yet, make it a post-card.  Hand written notes are always romantic, always appreciated; and even if you live together, dropping a note in the mail-box at work and sending it home seems silly and sweet.  It’s a way to put a smile on your lady’s face for just over 50 cents.




2.  BEAT IT.


A dozen eggs costs anywhere from $.99 to $6.99 (depending on the city you live in); that’s breakfast for two for a whole work-week!  Get up early and scramble some eggs. It’s easy, and it shows that you’re willing to put forth the effort to make up for the lack of cash you’re able to ‘shell’ out.








Put on some Gaga and get all googoo-eyed for your lady in the comfort of your own home.  A spontaneous dance-party in the living room could ‘lead’ to a dirty dance party in the bedroom.  It’s a fine line between the mambo and the horizontal mambo.







It’s important to remember to spoil your lady, even when you’re feeling broke.  Spoil her with compliments, spoil her with affection, spoil her with love.  Sure it’s fun to give a grandiose gift, do a fancy dinner, or take a trip together—but the building blocks of a strong relationship are made with love, not finances.  So be resourceful, even when your resources are low!